In English
I will give now an example. There is a girl in one house. There is a young man in another house. Their houses are almost side by side. But the girl does not know anything about the young man, and the young man does not know anything about the girl living in the neighbouring house. One day, the girl fell seriously ill. That day all the people in the house were hectic and several doctors were called in. When the boy in the neighbouring house heard the noise, he thought it was a disturbance to his studies; and therefore, he closed his window and started reading. But in course of time, as a result of destiny, this boy got married to that girl in the neighbouring house. The marriage took place in the morning. In the afternoon, the girl developed a stomach-ache and the bridegroom felt very anxious for the girl and her stomach-ache. Where and when did he develop this attachment to the girl? Because he got married to her, even a little stomach-ache upset him. When the same girl fell dangerously ill some time ago, he did not feel even the slightest anxiety of her because, at that time, there was no attachment or relationship with that girl. So, and , affection and attachment, are responsible for all joys and sorrows. We must try to attain that serene state of mind, that equanimity which enables you not to be elated by joy or depressed by sorrow. When you are able to attain that equanimity of mind, then you can attain .