In plain words
No: it is teaching. It is said so that you may come to good. We must not say things that grieve others, that cause them pain, that torment them. There is nothing wrong in saying things that lead others on the good path and help them grow on the sacred path. That is why Vidura said to Dhṛtarāṣṭra, ‘When a tree is cut with an axe it falls, and afterwards that tree puts out new shoots. But if you wound a heart with harsh words, it perishes. For the Kauravas have reviled Kṛṣṇa. Kṛṣṇa stands on the side of the Pāṇḍavas. For the Pāṇḍavas are embodiments of Dharma. Though the Kauravas are embodiments of adharma, you are encouraging your sons.’ Vidura stood up to his own elder brother. If a father keeps encouraging his sons in their wrongs, they will be ruined. ‘Fondness for one's sons is not what counts; holy worship is what counts,’ he said. The birth of sons should bring a good name. Only such ones should we count as sons. Who is Dhṛtarāṣṭra? One who regards as his own what is not his own: that is Dhṛtarāṣṭra. A kingdom that was not theirs they went on regarding as their own, the Kauravas. ‘How can I cast off those who were born of my own body, of my own blood?’ he said. Have you ever left the urine and faeces born in your body without cleaning them away? When you kill the lice and bugs bred on your body, you show them no pity. In the same way we must cut off evil while it is still small; otherwise it grows into a great tree.
If you want everyone to honour you, you must honour everyone
Mīrā went to Tulasīdās and asked his counsel. Tulasīdās gave this answer. ‘Mother! We were born for God. We must not think about the things that come in between. Before marriage the boy is one person and the girl another. But after the marriage they became husband and wife.