In plain words
We do not count how many grains of rice have gone in, one, two, three. But if one or two stones come under our teeth, we complain, ‘The rice is full of stones.’ This is our weakness. We give more room to the bad; we do not give more room to the good. That is why, when some bad thought comes into us, we must remember this good and slow it down. If we keep doing this, we can shape our lives to be as exemplary as we wish. Hardships of some kind will keep coming to us. We should not care about them. Even if you do care, keep it within yourself! Do not tell it outside and pass on unrest to another. Things like this we must learn. Here you are; suppose you go to your mother-in-law's house! Suppose in your mother-in-law's house she gets angry about something and scolds you! Because today you are the daughter-in-law. She is your mother-in-law. After some more years you too will become a mother-in-law. The mother-in-law who scolds you today was once a daughter-in-law in some house herself! We must recognise that Satya. Now, when my mother-in-law scolds me today, I suffer so much. Have you ever thought it over like this: ‘When I become a mother-in-law, if I scold my daughter-in-law, she too will suffer just as much, will she not!’ When you think in that way, you can control yourselves as much as you wish. Not only that, you should not write letters home that your mother-in-law scolded you, that she scolds like this and scolds like that. Even when you go to your parents' house, you should not tell your parents of this matter. Because they are rejoicing, thinking, ‘My child is very happy.’ Not only do you go through your own hardship; if you tell your parents, they too will suffer. So you should not make them suffer.
If today we honour our parents, tomorrow our children will honour us
They said, ‘Mātṛdevo bhava’. The gods we see with our eyes are our parents. Those who remove our hardships, those who bring us up and protect us, are our parents.