In plain words
That is why, if we recognise well how we must conduct ourselves in this physical life, in this worldly sphere, in our daily life, that itself is true sādhana. But it is in that very conduct that the faults arise.
First of all, every person must honour his parents. That is the path to the true goal. That is what will make you blessed. Only when we enter a little on such a holy path and experience it rightly will we come to recognise the Ānanda of this divinity. Not giving them even a morsel of food as long as they lived, the son today sets out for Kāśī after they are dead, carrying their bones and ashes. The son who could not give them food while they lived goes to immerse them in the Gaṅgā. What an artificial device this is! Rather than heaping lorry-loads of flowers after she is dead, worship your mother with one small flower while she lives. If we make them shed tears as long as they live and perform taddinams after they are dead, what fruit do we gain? This taddinam is tat dinam, that day.
The day when all the good devotees gather and, calling on Him as God, sing His praise, sweet to the ears; the day of lovingly taking away all the sorrows of the poor and living together like brothers; to the bands of servants who think on God, the day of serving fine food with love; the day when some great soul comes to us and tells, as a friend, the stories of God:
That day is a day; all the rest are taddinams. What does taddinam mean? The day we forget God is the taddinam. So many taddinams we remember. If, remembering one's mother and father, one sheds on that day a single tear from the heart, that itself is tarpaṇa. Instead of offering such true tarpaṇas, we perform the taddinam on whatever day we feel like vaḍas and pāyasam. We are serving it to ourselves; what we serve is not for those who have gone. It is because such evil customs are growing in the world today that all true Bhakti and surrender are sinking to nothing. We must honour our parents in the right way. We must welcome elders in the right way. Only then will morality and integrity grow in our life. Whatever kinds of show we may put on without morality and integrity, they can never please God. We must give up Ahaṅkāra and show.