In plain words
friendship was formed. What does that mean? Ayyo, poor thing! This Sugrīva is living in the forest, separated from his wife. So, ‘the very pain I have, he will have,’ he compared. Friendship forms only among those who are in such a state. You long greatly … to go near Swami, to sit near. Those elders are not of your age. So there is no right fit… between their feelings and your feelings. What you do is good. But do it in the right way. Without getting hurt yourself and without hurting others, fulfil your own aim. Whatever work you do: will it bring any danger to others? Will it cause pain? Think it over, then go forward. After thinking it over, push away selfishness and self-interest. Selfishness too must be there, but there must be a limit. When self-interest joins with the interest of others, that is true humanness. But today, from the elders down to the young, no one thinks before and after…. Because selfishness has grown beyond measure, they meet with unrest. They are losing humanness itself. Reduce your selfishness. Keep in view the thought, ‘Another person like me stands before me.’ You all live in society. Without society your individuality would be worthless. So you must give society a right example. The students are intelligent, but they do not have good conduct. That at least must be seen to. discipline manners, behaviour: these three are most important. The proper study of mankind is man. Between thoughts, words and actions there must be a right relation. This very thing they called trikaraṇa śuddhi. For one who has trikaraṇa śuddhi, wherever he may be, God is with him, beside him, before his eyes. Prema is good, but you want to be a lover. Prema itself is what is wanted. If you are a lover, you love only one. If you yourself become Prema, you love the whole world. That is what we must truly recognise. When one is himself Prema, he does not set out to hurt others. So when the students come inside, they must watch their conduct and keep it exemplary. Everything depends on our conduct. This very thing they have been calling nīti. Good conduct itself they called nīti. For … nīti humanness has come. Without nīti a nation is ruined.
A nation's honour stands on nīti; a nation without nīti is ruined; the nation that has nīti is the true nation: listen, heroic son of Bhārata.
So keep that nīti in view. That nīti and honesty depend on each other. With nīti we can achieve anything at all. The students must become people of nīti. They must change their minds. We keep saying, ‘Hari, Hari’;